This topic today is very relevant because it affects everyone at some point in their life. Changes occur everyday. They come in all sizes. Change may be caused by a divorce, a move, a job, becoming empty nesters, overcoming abuse…the list is endless. And at times depending on the severity of the change, it can put us on a path of a life long journey. It’s in those times that enable us to come up with tangible ways to cope. Today I want to share a change that happened in my life that has put me on a life long journey and the 3 ways that I cope with that change. I am not sharing this for any personal gain but in hopes of encouraging and helping others. On September 7, 2014, I lost my 16 year old son, Gianluca, in a car accident. I can’t even begin to tell you the changes that took place in my life. It changed everything…from the way I feel, to the way I think. For the mother’s and the parents reading this, I know that you can relate but for the ones that have experienced the loss of a child, I know that you completely understand! It is a parents worst nightmare! There is nothing worse! The 3 tangible ways that I cope with my terrible loss or I could say the 3 reasons why I continue to get out of bed every morning or I could say the 3 reasons why I am still here to share my story. The first one…my relationship and faith in God. Believing in and standing on scripture. Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1 I go to prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that where I am you may also be. John 14:3 I will tell you today that if I didn’t have this strong faith, I wouldn’t be here. There were many times that the grief was so overwhelming that I just didn’t think I had the strength to go on, but knowing that I would see my son again, gave me the strength to put one foot in front of the other and make it through just one more day. Second…my support system. My husband and my daughter. There are times when I depend heavily on them. My husband is really good at sensing my moods, my frame of mind, my attitudes and just where I’m at mentally and emotionally and he will do things to distract me and keep me busy while being patient and understanding. Because everyday is not easy. I have good days and bad days. Grief is like a roller coaster! My daughter and I have always been close but this has brought us closer on a deeper level. Her style is more no nonsense tough love. But I love that about her, it’s just who she is and it has helped me through some very dark times. Third…my purpose. This one is just as important because I believe that no matter what you have been through, you can turn the negative around into a positive, a mess into a message. That no matter what you have been dealt in this life, you can use it to help someone else. I have never questioned, I have never questioned God…why? I have faith and I believe that there is a bigger picture and if it is my purpose to help others with their loss and their grief and to just help them make it through each day by putting one foot in front of the other. By letting them know that they are not alone, that someone cares. If I can just help, if I can just reach one person…
So these are my 3 tangible ways for coping with personal change.
- My relationship and faith in God
- My support system
- My purpose
If my words have touched you today, I encourage you to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I would love to hear from you!